Even Though You’ve Been Told You’re Too Bright, Now is the Time to Shine Your Light

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“When you dim your light, the whole world gets darker.” *

How do you shine your Light if you’ve been told repeatedly that you shine too bright. That your Light will blind others. That your Light isn’t really Light but is actually bipolar disorder and you are arrogant to think otherwise. That it’s only fair that you keep your Light dim because people will feel bad if you outshine them. That your Light will expose the truth in your family and that’s dangerous. That your Light threatens to shake up the world order. 

How do you shine your Light anyway?

How do you expand your Light even further than you ever thought possible?

What do you do if your Light scares the heck out of YOU?

Well, dearest friends. Here’s a theory:

What if there’s so much turmoil in the world right now because there’s so much Light shining? The Light is showing us where the darkness** still lurks. What if we’re more aware of the crazy because there’s more enLightenment, not less? What if our job is to create more Light because it will eventually shine so bright that Light/Love will win?

(** Just for the record, I’m not really fond of the light versus dark analogy. It can indirectly support the whole light is good and dark is bad paradigm, which can then be ignorantly applied to people. In my opinion, “dark” can symbolize beauty, fertility, lush, green, wet, incubation, rest, power, balance, healing, growth, death/rebirth, transformation…and so on. Where would the rainforest be without the dark? But I digress.)

Where was I?

Oh yeah. How can you shine your Light in spite of the bullies, the critics, the misdiagnoses, the chainsaw family members, and your own fears of failure, success, overwhelm, and, oh, annihilation?

It’s complicated.

First, you have to realize that you have Light to shine. It’s time to recognize your strengths. That you indeed do have a rainforest mind. That you’re resonating with this blog because you belong here. So. In your journal, make a list of your strengths and write an ode to your rainforestness. Or draw a huge mindmap of your strengths, interests, and accomplishments. Prepare to be impressed.

Then, accept that your fears make sense, considering your experiences. If you’ve been told to hide your Light multiple times, in various ways, it can be discouraging and demoralizing. It can convince you that you’re crazy, and certainly not gifted. Of course, you have doubts. Your rainforest mind can create millions of doubts.

So here’s another thing to do: Make a list of books, websites, and people who can provide support, insight, and guidance. Then, make time to read, research, and receive the understanding and love. Remind yourself that being in a healing and growth process is important for yourself, your family, your ancestors, and the planet.

Then find small ways and big ways to shine. And imagine that you can shine even brighter. That it’s safe now to get brighter. That you’ve only just begun to know the extent of your reach.

Together. Let’s shake up the world order.


To my bloggEEs: Please share your resources for personal and planetary support, insight and guidance in the comments. (You can share your Odes, too!) For example, I’m reading two great books right now that are positive and powerful guides to action on climate change. The Parent’s Guide to Climate Revolution by Mary DeMocker and We Rise: The Earth Guardians Guide to Building a Movement that Restores the Planet by Xiuhtezcatl Martinez. What are you reading? And thank you, as always, for your wonderful beingness.

And, hey. I’m thinking about designing an online class for rainforest minds. What do you think? What would you like me to include in the class?

I’ll be at the SENG conference July 19-22, 2018. If you attend, please find me and introduce yourself!

*Christiane Northrup




Author: Paula Prober

I’m a psychotherapist and consultant in private practice based in Eugene, Oregon. I specialize in international consulting with gifted adults and parents of gifted children. I’ve been a teacher and an adjunct instructor at the University of Oregon and a frequent guest presenter at Oregon State University and Pacific University. I’ve written articles on giftedness for the Eugene Register-Guard, the Psychotherapy Networker, Advanced Development Journal and online for psychotherapy dot net, Rebelle Society, Thrive, Introvert Dear, and Highly Sensitive Refuge. My first book, Your Rainforest Mind: A Guide to the Well-Being of Gifted Adults and Youth, is a collection of case studies of gifted clients along with many strategies and resources for gifted adults and teens. My second book, Journey Into Your Rainforest Mind: A Field Guide for Gifted Adults and Teens, Book Lovers, Overthinkers, Geeks, Sensitives, Brainiacs, Intuitives, Procrastinators, and Perfectionists is a collection of my most popular blog posts along with writing exercises for self-exploration and insight.

18 responses to “Even Though You’ve Been Told You’re Too Bright, Now is the Time to Shine Your Light”

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  1. Kevin Avatar

    Thank goodness I found this. I know my light is blindingly bright. And I seek this out. In some ways I crave it, I live for it. And it took an enormous amount of pain, suffering, and loneliness to get it. In fact, every trial I have had I wanted the light to go away but through each one it just shined even brighter. And it intimidates people for sure. And the flies. Yeah they show up too.

    But all I’ve ever wanted to do in life is being light and love to the world around me. And. Light and love are actually the same. One is spiritual the other temporal.

    Thank you for writing this. I get told that my light can blind others. I never wanted to admit it because it is my greatest strength. I’ve lost it before. Never again. But how do we function in all this? The loneliness can be overwhelming. Yet still i desire and have the courage to shine like the sun at noon day. I was born to love. I know it in every fiber of my being.

    I don’t want to lose this ever again. But I don’t want to outshine those around me even though it takes no effort for me to do. I try to kill my pride daily. I turn away from my ego. Yet here it is my ego taking me down again. The victim mentaility in this is like a paradox. What to do….

    1. Paula Prober Avatar
      Paula Prober

      Keep reading, Kevin. You’ll find some strategies in the posts and in the comments. Yes, it can be very lonely. Consider that shining your light doesn’t have to be an ego thing. It can be a way to be of service. To create a better world.

      1. Kevin Avatar

        Thank you Paula. I know this is a journey, been on it forever and will likely always be. I know that what you said is true about service and I know that’s most often always at the center of my desire and intention. But then we get tripped up in it, ambushed and blind sided by those we are trying to serve at times. Then the aftermath of pain loneliness and fighting regrets. In the end I know I always make a difference. Thank you for your response I look forward to reading more and am SO glad to be at home with those who understand this. Thank you!!

  2. Corrina.Page Avatar

    Is there a following on Instagram. I thought of your blog, it’s so great.

    Sent from my iPhone


    1. Paula Prober Avatar
      Paula Prober

      I’m not on Instagram. Just Twitter and Facebook. Thank you, Corrina.

  3. Paula Prober Avatar
    Paula Prober

    I just came across this resource that might be fascinating. I haven’t read the book yet but just might have to get it. This could be a hopeful and powerful view of reality. https://www.wholeworld-view.org

  4. Devon Avatar

    Consider me shaking! Thanks Paula, I really needed to hear these words tonight. Much love xx

    1. Paula Prober Avatar
      Paula Prober

      Thank you, Devon. <3

  5. A Allen Avatar
    A Allen

    The online class is a great idea! This especially needed in rural areas where contacts are limited and isolation and poverty are the primary fields of view.

    Facts about gifted, information to bust the commonly experienced myths, and healthy skills and self-care practices to help cope with the realities of multi-potential rainforest minds are always requested by young college students just starting out on their adventures as a gifted adult. A similar set is also requested by those discovering their giftedness at later stages of their adult life.

    1. Paula Prober Avatar
      Paula Prober

      Thanks for the suggestions, A Allen.

  6. Nicole Avatar

    I love the idea of an online class to connect with other likeminded individuals. Hope it happens.
    Thank you

    1. Paula Prober Avatar
      Paula Prober

      Thanks, Nicole. I’ll see what kind of response I get.

  7. laura Avatar

    We can learn more day by day. . Anybody is too bright..

    1. Paula Prober Avatar
      Paula Prober

      Did you mean to say “Nobody is too bright?”

  8. MaddieM Avatar

    I’m looking forward to the comments, my light is painfully dull right now.

    1. Paula Prober Avatar
      Paula Prober

      Sending you hugs, MaddieM. 🙂

  9. artyplantsman Avatar

    Great post Paula. 😊. It is hard to be hopeful in times when a hint of intelligence is seen as a threat by so many.

    1. Paula Prober Avatar
      Paula Prober

      I know. It’s not easy. One idea is that you give yourself permission to be strategic and show your intelligence in places where it’s less threatening. And find ways to keep your hope alive!

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