Difficult questions for many of the rainforest-minded include: How are you? What is your favorite book? What do you do for a living? Where did you put your keys?
In your experience, the answers to these questions require time and thought and nuance. Except maybe the keys question. That one requires attention to what you might consider mundane, boring details that take your attention away from the captivating worlds of philosophical profundities, scientific anomalies, and Jane Austen.
As an RFM, you are a deep thinker, a divergent creator, a questioner, a curiosity junkie. You say, “It depends” a lot or “It’s not that simple.” Analyzing, debating, and swimming in the depths of an idea or a creative pursuit might be your favorite pastime. And yet. This can make relationships challenging. Friends and family may not want to hear your musings over the latest discoveries in epigenetics or your angst over the extinction of the western black rhinoceros.
It can be a lonely existence unless you find others who welcome your mental contortions and who are enthralled by your drive for meaning and excellence.
So, I am here to tell you that you are in good company. You are not alone. There are others out there just like you. I know this because I talk to them every day. They are all over the world. Granted, there are not large numbers of them on Planet Earth yet. But, if you are patient, and if you are on your introspective self-compassion socially responsible journey finding your paths to meaning and purpose, you will eventually run into one or two or even more. Here are some specific suggestions on how to find them.
If all else fails, you can craft a career that attracts them, like, say, psychotherapy and consulting for smart people. But if you are not convinced, that, one, you can find others like you, and two, your particular style of answering seemingly simple questions is actually quite common among the big thinkers of the world, enjoy this clip of two seriously rainforest-y men as one of them grapples with the difficult question: What is the best sandwich? (the question comes up at about the 2.50 minute mark)
To my bloggEEs: Don’t you just love these men? They are such great examples of rainforest-minded intelligence, sensitivity, social responsibility, and humor. Tell us your experiences with finding friends and partners and with the challenging questions of life. And don’t give up on discovering your own Jon Stewart + Stephen Colbert relationship.