We all need a friend like Anne (her real name!) who wrote this to me in an email one day when I was in a particularly lonely, fearful, self-doubting, estrogen-deprived, angsty, melancholy mood: “The odd and magical combination of things that you love is exactly what they need here.”
Find yourself some Anne.
If I can do it, so can you. All it takes is one Anne. You don’t need a gaggle of Annes. One will do.
I found Anne in 1992. Right after I finished grad school. She had recently moved to Oregon and we ended up working for the same mental health agency and sharing office space in an old house downtown. Slowly, we built the deep friendship we have today. I had to woo her for a long time because she was busy raising a family and building her therapy practice. She was an introvert. (Me, too.) We were both kind of shy, choosy, and rather suspicious of human beings. But I have a good instinct for finding souls of the rainforest-minded variety (as you know) and I knew she would be worth the effort and patience it would take to bring her into my
web lair heart.
I’m telling you this in case you are struggling to find a friend. In case you are longing for someone who sees you and knows what you need to hear. A friend who gets that you are odd and magical and who loves you for it. A friend who is odd and magical, too.
Anne is not perfect, by the way. (Neither am I, in case you were wondering) Don’t look for perfect. Odd and magical will do. And, as I’ve told you many times, you can find your Anne as you do your inner work, as you heal from any early trauma, as you open to self-compassion, as you engage in activities you enjoy.
And that brings me to the next part. The part about how doing the odd and magical things that you love is what they need here on planet earth. Whoa, right? How about that? Can you let yourself be the oddball? Can you embrace your magical, mystical proclivities? Because maybe, just maybe, that is what is needed here on Planet Earth! Can you imagine that who you are is exactly who you are supposed to be? That everyone benefits if you are you?
I know. It’s kind of mind boggling.
And yet, there it is.
So, my magnificent rainforesters, find your Anne and embrace your particularly quirkified ways . Because —“The odd and magical combination of things that you love is exactly what they need here.”
To my bloggEEs: What do you think? Have you found a friend who gets you? Tell us how you found your friend! What are the odd and magical things you love?Thank you, as always, for being here. Hugs and kisses to you! And, don’t forget. My next book is coming. There have been delays but I promise it will arrive before tooooo long. I will announce it here and on Instagram and Facebook. Maybe even TikTok!