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If I’m So Smart, Why Do I Feel So Lost and Alone?
There are times when you just want to scream. Even though you’re a pacifist. Even though your instinct is to be compassionate and understanding. Even though you have empathy that overwhelms you. There are those days when you just want to say, “Why are there so many f—ed up, insensitive, clueless, exasperating people in the…
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My Life as an Introverted Psychotherapy Nerd
I’m an introverted psychotherapy nerd. I know there are other ways to live. But I don’t care. I’ve been a client in some type of therapy since I turned 31. I’ve tried it all. Rebirthing. Holotropic breath work. Support groups. 12 Steps. Talk. Journaling. Polarity. Attachment theory. Jungian analysis. Enneagram. CBT. EMDR. EFT. HRT. Tango.…
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The Woman Whose Hair Refused To Be Controlled — A Journaling Technique for Self-Discovery
One of my favorite tools for self-acceptance and healing is my trusty journal. I’ve used it for years. It’s how I figure out what’s going on when I’m depressed, anxious, lonely, or craving another hot fudge sundae. I gain insight, process emotion, and receive guidance. I’m going to share one technique with you here, including a…
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A Love Letter to You and Your Rainforest Mind
Dear One. Yes, you. With that dazzlingly intense rainforest mind. You have so much Courage. To be here, on this planet, during such tumultuous times. To stay sensitive, empathetic, and compassionate. To perceive and feel the human layers of suffering, despair, rage, fear, and sorrow. To stay open to your deepest emotions. To speak out…
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Who Were You Before You Learned That You Are Supposed To Be Normal?
“I have been trying to run myself on the do-your-best-to-fit-in-with-normal-people operating system. It’s not my original operating system. It’s the one I adopted when I was abused in various ways for being myself. I perfected it in school and at work, forcing myself to do all the boring and pointless things and to make myself…
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“…Your Fierce and Unbreakable Light…”
If you’ve been raised in a seriously dysfunctional family or your compassionate, smart, sensitive, rainforest mind has experienced other chainsaws over the years, or both, it’ll be important for you to mend your broken heart. The mending takes time, patience, and care. You will likely need help on the journey. Let yourself get help. Granted, because…