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The Pressure to Achieve “Greatness” When You Are Gifted–Where Does it Come From and What Can You Do About It?
It can start early. Well-meaning parents may repeatedly praise their gifted children for their unusual accomplishments. The children may read early or show a love of numbers even before starting school. They may request math and reading workbooks for birthdays and demand weekly trips to the town library. They may ask complex questions and express…
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Do Not Slow Down, Quiet Down, Wait, Think Less, Feel Less, and Shrink Even if it Feels Safer to Do Just That
You may have received messages from relatives, friends, teachers, therapists, and your cat Frederick to slow down, quiet down, wait, think less, feel less, and shrink. You may have felt overwhelmed by events on Planet Earth so you have wanted to hide, retreat, shut down, and sob endlessly. You may be tempted to jump into…
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Strategies for Living in a Troubled World When Your Empathy Meter is Overloaded and Your Synapses are Imploding
Many of you are likely reeling from the multiple crises facing humanity these days. Chances are, your empathy meter is way overloaded and your synapses are imploding from the inner and outer pressure to reconfigure or unleash your mind palace to save this troubled world. I understand. I am also overloaded and imploding. So, today,…
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Parenting a Gifted Child When You Are Gifted, Too–The Good News And The Not-So-Good News
In my experience, gifted children often have one or both parents who are gifted. That is the good news. And the not-so-good news. The good news: You can relate to your child’s challenges because many of them are similar to yours. You, too, are highly sensitive and have plenty of empathy so your child will…
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You Are Not Broken — A Strategy for Navigating Life With Humans Who Think You Are
“…Spend a life time being called weirdo, freak or crazy for being smarter, more creative and more perceptive…eventually you figure out that it’s not you that’s broken and you can not make your light dimmer to make others more comfortable and be your true self. I got past the anger years ago. I don’t need…
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The Loneliness Of Not Being Seen In All Of Your Multitudes
There is a deep satisfaction in being understood. Being truly seen. Receiving an authentic response from someone who has heard, grasped, and appreciated your particular, unique voice. Your multidimensional, nuanced, unusual thinking, feeling, and knowing. It can bring me to tears when I experience being met in this way. Surely, we all need this. But…
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The Woman Who Did Not Know Herself – A Journaling Technique
(To my bloggEEs: The following is a recent journal entry of mine. It is a technique I use to figure something out that is bothering me. I always start with “Once upon a time there was a woman who…” and then I write about the thing that is upsetting me, or about the question I…
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Music To Soothe Your Worried Sensitive Soul
I have discovered playlists. I know. You are rolling your eyes. I realize that playlists have been around for a while now. But you must understand that I was alive when TV was the newest thing. I am that old. But, playlists. OMG. All of my favorite songs in one place. Over and over and…